And How A Revolutionary New Protocol & Virtual Reality Are Freeing Us of Our Self-Destructive Behaviors

Imagine a world where you can enjoy everybody because everyone in your world is there by choice, not need. Imagine being able to use all of your mental power to invent, conquer, achieve and love instead of wasting your brain’s resources on seeking love and validation from others. Imagine the freedom that comes from feeling equal to everyone, choosing instead of being chosen, or loving unconditionally instead of trying to secure love and appreciation from someone else. Imagine the power of being beautiful, skilled and rich because you are, instead of trying to acquire those qualities as a means to secure emotional rewards. Imagine being able to love without fear, and simply enjoying it. Imagine a life without all the pain, fears and addictions resulting from emotional dependency.

Throughout my life, I have loved and studied the beauty that the mind holds. One of the main focuses of my research has been the daunting condition of emotional dependency. I realized from an early age that dependency upon others for emotional support was not natural in adulthood, and there was another way to live. I knew there had to be a way to release this unhealthy need for others and transform painful emotional dependency into highly rewarding interdependency. I embraced the challenge, and it became my life’s mission.

To address emotional dependency, I needed to understand the cause of it; I worked to gain knowledge about the purpose of our mind, body and our lives. I realized that everything in the mind and body is equipment that operates to maximize our efficiency. Our skin, our bones, our thinking, our emotions all strive to achieve our life’s goals of promoting safe and efficient behaviors.

This concept evidenced that emotional dependency had a natural value in the course of our lives. By observing the early development of mammals and tribal initiations into adulthood, I was able to identify its purpose. Emotional dependency is built into us from birth to ensure the need for love, safety, validation and guidance toward our parents and educators. This bond with our parents protects our vulnerable lives in childhood and stimulates our early learning. We are meant to transition to emotional and physical independence as we progress through puberty, and these skills are refined during the teenager years.

Self-leadership and self-reliance are learned behaviors we acquire from our parents. Unfortunately, most parents today do not have the models needed to guide their children toward emotional independence during the impressionable childhood years. When the time comes to release their parental duty, instead of empowering us with self-reliance, they have left us with the only pathway open to us: to transfer our emotional needs from our parents to the people around us. This is why emotional dependence still exists in adulthood for most of us. We see the result in low self-esteem, self judgement, the choices we make in our relationships, the failure to create or sustain healthy relationships, depression, fear of rejection, addiction, financial struggles and so many other dysfunctional or self-limiting behaviors. We act out of our need for approval for others.

As soon I identified the origin of this condition, I focused my energy and resources towards finding a solution. The challenge was to identify a methodology that provides the mind with the same self-reliant models we were supposed to receive from our parents. Through 10 years of research and clinical testing with more than 2,000 clients, I established a protocol offered in a state of deep meditation that guides the mind to self-reliance and the removal of the obsolete behaviors built to cope with emotional dependency.

My research is based on the theory that the mind always strives for perfection, implementing and choosing behaviors that grant the best possible responses to one’s daily events. Optimal responses are selected by the mind in order to maximize safety and efficiency, whatever the occurrence.

Of course, the tools available and the perception of the event’s influence or limit our behavioral choice. Meaning, if we are driven by emotional needs, we will implement entirely different life choices from the ones we would do if we were self-reliant. Imagine the different set of behaviors that we would use if we try to be beautiful, smart, rich, cool or confident–in order to gain love and approval, or if instead, we just are, without worrying about judgment or rejection.

However, self-reliant models – if already in place – are more efficient and safer. Therefore, the mind will prioritize them over less-functional, emotionally dependent sets of behavior. Together we can help the mind to identify those powerful self-reliant models; the same ones we should have received from our parents.

As soon as this new clarity is implemented, the mind is free to archive the now-obsolete behaviors. This is the process that searches out obsolete behavioral responses, actions, thoughts, feelings or experiences that trigger the old emotionally-dependent models. When these behaviors are retrieved, the mind makes the required behavioral updates, so that in future events, these responses are in tune with the new self-reliant model that you have now set as the priority. This process is subliminal and effortless, not requiring someone to consciously process or remember events to create change or free oneself. The mind is like a computer, if doesn’t need to recreate images and sounds; it can simply browse through millions of events in a fraction of a second, and do the upgrade!

My next challenge was to bring this research out of my practice and to the world. Two years ago, the advancement in Virtual Reality technology allowed me to convert it into a home therapy that can be used anywhere, anytime. Virtual Reality is mainly used for interactive entertainment, but it has much more value than games and fantasy experiences. It engages our two main senses in a fully-immersive setting that replicates the way we learn naturally, through experience. It also offers captivating visuals, able to calm the mind and keep it focused on the experience. The process enhances this learning environment by guiding the mind into the Theta state, the same state used by Buddhist Monks for mind and spiritual development work. In this emotional state, our highly intelligent mind is less distracted, therefore more open, to analyze and acquire alternative models and acceptable guidance for self-reliance.

VR can be a powerful tool to unleash your natural powers, creating the freedom for you to experience emotional independence.